May 2013
2 posts
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Dear 'Dad'
It’s been 20 years since I last saw you, well, spoke to you. Apparently you held me when I was 7 months old, the one and only time. Well, I guess I just wanted to write this down, somewhere. The only memory I have of you is when I was 5, I saw you in the garden of some woman’s house, playing with another little girl, I shouted hello, stood there and waved, and you didn’t even...
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Dear absent mother,
I’m an entire fifteen feet away from you as I type this, but I don’t believe you really, genuinely register that. That fifteen away, your daughter, who you never wanted to bear, who you’ve dumped all the responsibilities typically reserved for a spouse upon, to whom you constantly remind of her (physically) absent, “deadbeat” father and all his...
April 2013
4 posts
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Dear Mother
Dear Mother,
Your cruelty and neglect have left an indelible mark on me that no matter what I do nor how much time goes by it can never erase. You are still alive though I think you would be better off dead. Your emotional abuse of the three of us makes me hate you more than words can even tell you, you did not deserve to have children and I truly hope you know that your time on this earth as a...
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Dear Mom,
I’m writing you this because I feel so horrible right now and you aren’t here for me to talk to. I can’t even pick up the phone and give you a call and it’s something I need to be able to do so badly right now. Lately I’ve been feeling so alone in the world and no one can make me feel like I belong. Of course Jake is there and can calm me down, but...
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Dear Absent Father,
You left 39 years ago & was never heard from again. Your 5 daughters searched and searched for you, even hired a few private investigators to find you, but never found even the smallest lead. Thirty-nine years later (2 days ago) we found you (FaceBook is a wonderful thing). You have a different name & a different birth date but there’s no doubt it’s you. You even posted a...
Why
Dear absent father,
I never knew a time where we spent longer than a year together. When I was 6 you moved from America to Asia and Nobody explained that to me or explained to me what exactly you were doing there. Sure I would visit you during the summer but when you work 60 hours a week I barely spend any time with you. I understand that child support being six hundred dollars a month can be...
March 2013
8 posts
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Dear absent father,
Thanks for not being there for me for most of my life. But I sincerely mean that. Thanks to you not being there, I never had to deal with you, and your shitass dickholeness. I never had to deal with the whole bunch of sisters that you’ve produced to other mothers, never had to deal with having you there. The only good thing you ever brought into my life, was my life....
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Dear Dad
It’s been just over nine years since you left this world. Time has only given me distractions but has not taken away any of the pain of losing you. I was twelve when you took your life and I remember the day so clearly even now. I had felt sick all day at school but I still had no idea. I had no idea when Mom picked us up from the babysitter’s with a tear-stained face, I had no idea...
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Dear Father,
Remember when we would do everything together? When you taught me how to ride a bike? When we would go out to the pet store and look at all the kittens for sale? When we would hide under a blanket and pretend we were under attack? Well I do. I remember you were my hero. I looked up to you because I was your little girl. You promised you’d always be with me, no matter what. You promised...
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Dear Absent Mother
God I miss you. So very much. I hardly knew you, by the time I was able to actually have a relationship with you, you were too ill. Too scary. I’m so sorry for finding you scary, Mum. How’s an 11 year old meant to not be scared when they hear someone choking, when they only hear confused garbles. I wanted to talk to you, I did, but you didn’t understand. I couldn’t...
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Dear Absent Father
I do wonder why you left. I mean, the overt reasons were obvious. Mum was ill, and you didn’t want to look after a four year old. Your four year old. I don’t know how to feel about you, in all honesty. You left us, after years of abuse, neglect and generally being a dick. You lied to Mum about taking me to school, leaving me alone to starve. Why is my earliest memory being hungry? I...
Anonymous asked: I just want to hug the person that signed "Your faggot son"!!!!
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Dear Mom,
It’s me again. I didn’t think I’d be writing you another letter for another few months. It’s almost been a year since you died and I still can’t believe it. But that’s not why I’m writing you this letter. Tomorrow we’re having a discussion on death, terminal illnesses, and hospice. On Tuesday the professor went over his notes and I kept almost...
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Letter from a baby to his dad
Dear abscent father: Daddy Im so small I can not understand why r u not here I cant remember ur face other babys when they grow older they go with their fathers to the park I want to do that Daddy do u love me Why cant u b here with me tomorrow its my birthday I will be 6 month ,I wish u could be here I am learning so fast Im getting big and one day I will not be a baby no more I know I cry a lot...
February 2013
9 posts
Dear Mom,
You may be in my life. You may see me 6 days a week. That doesn’t mean you are there for me. You left Dad when I was only 1, stating it just “wasn’t working out.” You still let me see him on Sundays, which is the only thing I can look forward to. You got with Jillian and Julia (my two half sisters)’s piece of shit father back in ‘05. You had two kids with him....
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What do I write?
I recently received a letter from my father, who I have never met. I am now 20 years old. The letter just contained simple things like merry christmas. Nothing about his abandonment… Some help me choose what to write back.
Suggestions Here
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Dear Father
I’ll never forget the way you used to put me on your shoulders and we’d go for a walk through the forest on a beautiful summer day. My vanilla ice cream cone melts and drips on your hair. But you never get mad. I couldn’t keep the smile off my face. The sound of your laughter still rings in my ears. We were the dynamic duo. So, I never imagined you’d break my heart and walk...
Divorced Parents
meow-is-the-time:
I’ve never really put much thought into this before, until it’s really affected my life. My parents got divorced when I was 14 yeas old. I have never really realized how badly this has hurt my family. My mom resided in Georgia while my dad lives in California. Every birthday, Christmas, summer vacation, etc has to be split. It really hurts me when my mom calls me to see if I...
Dear Dad,
vivalayanibell:
I’ve tried speaking to you but I can’t seem to grasp the correct words to express to you how I feel. I know so much has changed between us. I never see you anymore and I don’t really call you as much because I don’t know what to tell you.. I don’t know what to say. You made a mistake and though I have chosen to put that behind me, I can’t forget it. For as long as I can remember,...
Twit convo with one of my followers... Do you...
killingthems0ftly:
@jfreeze03: I think being a dead beat mom is worst than a dead beat dad
QuietlyBrlliant: RT @jfreeze03: I think being a dead beat mom is worst than a dead beat dad « I think their about even on the #YouAintShit level QuietlyBrlliant: @jfreeze03 I think its because she’s woman and she gets more judgement
jfreeze03: @QuietlyBrlliant it’s fucked up but its kinda or normal...
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Dear dad,
I decided to write this letter because I’m not brave enough to talk to you.
You are definetly not the wrost dad. In fact, sometimes you are not bad at all. You love me. You never abandoned us, you pay for everything we need, you are kind and cares for us. You give everything I could want. Everything but acceptance.
Ever since I was a little kid, I feel like I’m your...
hislilrobokitty-deactivated2013 asked: This tumblr has the most feels I've ever seen
January 2013
6 posts
Dear Mom,
It’s 2:40 am and I can’t sleep, I can’t breath, and I can’t calm down. All I can think about is how much I miss you and wish that I could hear your voice again or feel your warm hugs. I’m trying to be strong and act as if you never died, but I always fall apart at night.. So much has changed over these last four months; I no longer live with Dad, I don’t even...
Anonymous asked: I know this blog is for absent parents, but does that include writing to a parent that has died? I'm curious because if that's the case then I think this blog could really help me get some emotions out.
Anonymous asked: What do you say to a father on his dying bed that left the family home when I was two but that I only connected back with six years ago as a 40 year old adult?
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Dear Absent Father
Maybe I should be happy that you don’t even pretend to care anymore.. But I can’t get over what you’ve put me through. How could you let your brother touch me like that… And make me touch him.. How DARE you tell our WHOLE family I lied to get attention HE FUCKING CONFESSED!! You’re an alcoholic, a liar and a prick. You are going to die alone because you don’t...
These posts just break my heart. :(
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Dear Mum,
I am 26 years old now and have been rejected and abandoned by you once again
It hurts as much as it did when I was a baby, a child, and a teen.
All I ever did was try and be a daughter you would want to be a mother too, as though it was my responsability to make you love me. If it was I have failed time and time again. I forgave you over and over, understood that your past damaged...
December 2012
7 posts
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Dear absent father,
It’s been about six months since I last saw you or even heard your voice. I’ve almost forgotten what it sounds like. I can’t even begin to express all of my emotions: anger, sadness, guilt, emptiness, jealously. The list goes on. Whether I talk to you or see you doesn’t change any of those emotions. You still make me feel like absolute shit. I remember...
You guys can now leave commens under posts.
Which is cool.
I think anyone who is a single parent deserves an...
I hate having divorced parents. :(
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Dear Absent Mom
It been 6 almost 7 years. I’ve missed you the same number of years I was when you took me away from her. I loved you and I will never stop, but some days I want to hate you; for what you did, for how you acted, for decisions you made about my life without my consent. Who cares if I was only four?! But I never can. I yell, scream and cry tears torn between sadness and anger, but I can never...
November 2012
13 posts
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Dear dad
I’m in a good place now. Five years ago, maybe even less, I hated you. You were the reason my mum had to do the things she did, why we were so poor growing up, why I have commitment and abandonment issues and find it difficult to interact with other human beings. You just walked out of a life that wasn’t to your liking instead of trying to make it work. You walked out and got yourself...
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Dear Mom,
I’m feeling very hurt that you still haven’t called me back since I left two voicemails for you on Thanksgiving. The first year I moved across country and you missed my calls on Christmas I thought it was a fluke, I got worried that you had gotten hurt traveling to Grandma and Grandpa’s. But for the last 4 years it’s felt like you ignore my calls on every...
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Dear Absent Father,
I hope you’re happy. Going behind the backs of your entire family and changing yourself the way you did. Did you really think personal posessions brought people true happiness? How’s the corvet holding up? I’m sure a lot of young little things just love to try and get a chunk of that unexistant wealth. Are you seriously even considering dating a thirty year old? You’re...
What it feels like to get divorced
takineko:
My dad once told me that when your husband/wife leaves you willingly [I.E. Divorce] it feels horrible, like they died, except they’re still alive. You want to see them because you know they’re actually alive somewhere, but they don’t want to see you so it hurts even worse.
For me it’s very similar, except it kind of feels like I’m the one who is dying. But my husband wants to get over...
Personal Stuff
godzillarocket:
These last couple of years I’ve watched my parents marriage fall apart and it’s really heartbreaking. They don’t sleep in the same bed anymore and they barely talk to each other. When they do talk to each other they just argue. Seeing their marriage slowly fade away is depressing and it’s a major reason why I don’t want to get married for a long time. Maybe I’ll never get...
I'd like to take this time..
blondieisbackk:
To thank my parents for showing me how to NOT be a mother or father. I’d also like to thank them for being selfish, in-capable of love, not taking care of us, and filling their own selfish money wasting and time consuming desires before taking care of my brother and I. I’d especially like to thank my father who could never be bothered to spend time with my brother and I unless my...
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Dear absent mother,
I still don’t know really what to say, I still cannot believe this was you. What you’ve done. When I was younger, I was blind to it as my Dad shielded me from your cruel ways. Then when he’d had enough, gone because he couldn’t stay anymore just to protect us. We were older and he thought I’d stick to my word and go with him. But you fooled me and I fell for it. Then...
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Dear absent father
I really regret acting in such a stupid childish way when you were around, and when you got cancer, I didn’t realise how bad it would be. I’ve finally realised that you should take nothing for granted, and I worry how much I’ll forget about you. It’s nearly 3 years since you’ve been gone and it doesn’t really get any easier. I think I still believe you’re...
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Dear absent Father,
I hate how you think you should be allowed to control me and my mother when you are away for 90% of the year. You have no right to come home and expect us, as the ‘inferior members of the family’, to bow down to your needs.
Me and my mother both are fairly sure you have Narcissism. And OCD, a dangerous combination. But you’d never admit to it. You’re too perfect to have...
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In the near furtute I'd like to start a help...
So that those who are hurting or simply just wanting to be heard can have a chance to interact with other people and say exactly whats on their minds.
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Dear Absent Mother,
You and I haven’t talked for almost 2 years now. We both know our relationship will never recover. I forgive you. Well at least I think I do or am trying to but all of the abuse you brought upon me ruined me. But daddy is fixing me and hopefully after court on December 6th, you will be out of my life completely. But one thing I don’t understand is, how do you live with yourself? How do...
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Any memorable moments with your absent parent(s)?
I can only remember one. It’s a bittersweet one though. He would come by at random mornings and buy me breakfast from wendy’s….mcdonalds or whatever. But it was bittersweet because he would always come at an early hour. I never got to talk with him or anything. He just came and left. Then I turned 9 and the visits and phone calls would get further and further apart. It hurts just...
October 2012
7 posts
8 tags
To my absent father, I don’t love you, but I hope you yearn for me the way I yearn for your affection. I hope you wonder how I am and how I look. I hope you wonder how life would be if we were part of each others life. sometime I wish you would come save me from the hell hole my life has become but I know that is never going to happen. I hope that some nights you stay awake and cry like I do for...
